Thursday, March 11, 2010

Things I've learned being married to a musician

I always wanted to marry a guy who played guitar...who sang? bonus. So I of course met my husband with a guitar strapped around his neck.

Here are some things I have realized or learned, or just plain observed over the years.

*When you are married to a musician, they are a musician everywhere. even when not playing their instrument. they hear music everywhere. even in their heads. and dreams. (so they better keep a notebook nearby so they can write down said head music so as not to forget it.)

*your musician will not hear you when you decide to have a conversation with them as they are practicing their instrument in front of the television while you are crocheting. they may nod their head or even say, "yeah" but they didn't hear anything. so save the big stuff for later. or now.

*you will never, ever listen to an album in its entirety ever again. ever. you may never listen to a song in it's entirety ever either. said musician will know within seconds if he likes the song that begins to play or not...even before you get a chance to like it or not.

*your musician may or may not refer to his guitars as babies.

*your children will become music snobs even as toddlers. full on screaming and crying in the car because they DO NOT like the song that you are playing.

*Your musician is always most certainly looking for the perfect tone. he may have 3-4 guitars already, but he is always looking for the next one. always. that goes for pedals as well.

*you will hear new wave on the radio and think, "huh, oh ya, I used to really like this stuff."

*You will become a music snob too!! yup. it's true.

3 comments:

  1. "Your musician is always most certainly looking for the perfect tone. he may have 3-4 guitars already, but he is always looking for the next one. always. that goes for pedals as well."
    This one I can relate too. Being maried to a music man myself.

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  2. haha. Troy's not nearly so pedigreed, but he's the same way!

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  3. I have been searching far and wide for a support group/network of women married to a musician. Unfortunately I found nothing that unites us together. If it weren't for little posts scattered around on blogs like yours, there would be nothing! So thanks. To unite us, I started an online network for us women who are married to musicians.
    www.marriedtoamusician.com

    Please come and offer your stories, advice, and support to other women who are married to a musician. We're unique, strong-minded, and loyal and we deserve some appreciation!

    Cheers,

    Chas

    editor@marriedtoamusician.com

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